New York: Day Two

Day two in New York (a Monday) started with a trip to the corner deli - a walk of about 20 yards - so I could have my requisite bacon, egg and cheese on a roll. New York may be known for having some of the world's finest cuisine, but it's the simple things that I truly miss. I got two and saved the second for Tuesday. A tasty breakfast eases the back-to-work transition.

Soon, we were on our way to the United Nations. One of the few tourist attractions I haven't visited, I looked forward to the opportunity to see something new.

With the exception of an airport-style security screening and the lobby, this expedition was not to be. Lengthy lines and an inability to determine just how long we would have to wait for the tour, but with the notion it could've been all day, we skipped the tour and spent a short time walking around the lobby and gift shop.


Who knew the UN lobby would be filled with art, including this stained glass window by Marc Chagall:

After the UN, we headed across town to meet Elaine. "We're taking the bus?" Chris said with a hint of skepticism. While most out-of-towners seem to relish the opportunity to ride the subway, the bus doesn't hold the same allure. Maybe it's because nearly every city of reasonable size has a bus system, usually ridden by those without cars and purposely avoided by those who do. Or maybe it's school bus PTSD. Who knows. Not me. I love the bus. In fact, I'll be taking my first ride on a Minneapolis city bus tonight, which I may or may not write about, depending on how interesting it is. But I digress...

It was nearing lunch time and our date with my favorite sandwich in the world: #7 at Crystal Cafe, 57th & Broadway. Avocado, sprouts, cucumber, provolone, red wine vinaigrette plus mayo and mustard in lieu of red onions. All of this on a Portuguese roll, to which they have added some whole grains since my last visit. Typically, I like to "health up" (a Chris-ism) my food, but sometimes it's best not to mess with perfection.

Oh, and we saw Elaine, too. We worked together across the street from said fave-sandwich from 2000 to 2002, but I never got her to try it until about a year and a half ago. Initially she was skeptical, but now she's hooked. You can't see it in the photo, but Elaine's sporting a "baby bump" and will welcome her third son in August (personally, I'm sure he wants to be born on the 13th).

After searching Daffy's in vain for some warmer clothes (it had to be in the low 50s and NY's signature wind tunnel in full effect), we took the subway downtown to see Sandra. She's still walking with a cane nearly a year and a half after knee surgery, but thinks she will be free from it soon. One key advantage, is that she's eligible for disability transit via a bus that takes her from door-to-door for less than the cost of a subway or bus ride. While it may be unfair to associate disability with any type of advantage, a door-to-door ride for $2 is unheard of!

It was great to see Sandra, but after a coffee she had to go back to work. Chris and I then made our way to the WTC site, which is just a couple of blocks from Sandra's office. This was after another fruitless search for a sweater, sweatshirt, anything at Century 21. Actually, I did pick up the scarf I'm wearing in the photo above earlier at Daffy's. But as Chris pointed out, it's purpose was one of style rather than warmth.

Access to the WTC site is mostly obscured, as it is now an active construction site. I hadn't been there since March 2002 (with Marilyn!) and the area has changed. There's a skyway between buildings from which one can get a clear view of the construction. It's not much to see yet, but this will surely be New York's top tourist attraction upon completion, albeit for morbid reasons. I have no strong desire to visit, actually, but probably will because I'm both macabre and masochistic. Not to mention alliterative...sorry, it's Friday...moving on...

With a late flight on Monday, we were poised for a full day. The last stop was supposed to be the Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island. We arrived at 3:40, well in advance of what I thought was the last ferry at 5:00 only to discover that the last ferry leaves at 3:30. I've been to Liberty Island at least 10 times and Ellis almost that many, but they're always worth a return trip. It was also a disappointment because Chris was really looking forward to it. You can tell from the look on his face that the teeny-tiny statue didn't quite live up to expectations. Next time, Chris, next time.


The National Museum of the American Indian was not much of a consolation prize. I'm not sure if we missed a whole wing or if this is Smithsonian budget cuts under the Bush Administration or if relegating our native cultures to one exhibit is meant to be metaphorical. In any case, it was a disappointment!

Soon, we were on our way back to JFK, driven by the chattiest cabby I've ever had. I think it's Chris, although he never says much so I don't know why this guy was compelled to tell us everything we ever wanted to know (and quite a bit we didn't) about taxi driving, gas prices and the economy.

Despite a lengthy delay, we were back home shortly past midnight. Great trip. When can we go again?

New York: Day One

On Sunday, we drove from "down the shore" into "the city" as the locals would say. After a frustratingly slow crosstown drive (there is a reason why no one needs to - or should want to - drive in Manhattan), we arrived at Barking Dog for brunch.

We were joined by Natalie and Rob and Ariela (six months old).

Ariela is so sweet and happily let me hold her. The guy on the right in the photo below is Phil - Natalie and I used to work for him. He lives nearby and it was fun to catch up with him as well. Phil grew up in the Detroit area like Chris did, so they managed some sports talk despite it being "the loudest restaurant" Chris had ever been in. Notice the sunburn Chris acquired at the two-hour outdoor wedding ceremony the day before.

After brunch, we stopped by Natalie and Rob's apartment which was right across from the restaurant. We didn't stay long, but had a chance to watch video highlights from their honeymoon in South Africa. (Some of you may recall that I attended their wedding in Brazil in 2005).

Chris and I were soon on our way to return the rental car and check into our hotel - the Park South in Murray Hill, not far from my former NY home. I got an incredible rate (by New York standards), so anyone visiting New York may want to look into it.

Chris relaxed and watched basketball while I went for a walk. New York's enticingly convenient retail meant that my walk also involved some shopping. I returned to rouse Chris from a nap and to drop off my purchases.

We were soon on our way to the Empire State Building. While this was probably my tenth trip, they are constantly changing the process (and raising the prices!) so it's always a new adventure.

The observatory is the same, although they've moved the gift shop down to a lower level. I guess that's to keep people moving, but it made the process of getting to the top seem somewhat less rewarding.

Regardless of how many times I've seen it and despite the lines and multiple elevator rides, the view of New York from the 86th floor always takes my breath away. Chris said it was what he expected and envisioned. Looking at the photos he took - images similar to those shown in books and on tv - I guess one would basically know what to expect.

This is a view toward the south. Note the triangular-shaped flatiron building slightly right of center and the NY Life building's gold dome on the far left.

Looking northeast, notice the Chrysler Building (the day's gloom concealing its gleam) as well as the MetLife building. While not an architectural marvel, it's an easy-to-spot geographic landmark used by many a newbie, including me.

Nearly five years hence, I still know my way around quite well and seem to have met Chris' rigorous standards, with a couple of scheduling exceptions that I will discuss tomorrow.

That night we ate at Dos Caminos, where they serve tasty upscale Mexican, including exotic margaritas and the world's best guacamole.

There's the overview of day one. Stay tuned for day two details tomorrow!

Priya's Wedding Part Two

Here are a few more photos from Priya's wedding.

Some of the beautiful saris donned by wedding guests.


Chris in line for food at the cocktail hour. I didn't partake in the delicious Indian fare because I was sure there would be more at the reception.


Little did I know that between the cocktail hour and the reception that this turned from a traditional Indian wedding to a traditional American reception. Even Priya changed into a wedding gown.


She kept a touch of India in the intricate and beautiful henna designs up to her elbows (and feet/ankles, but I didn't photograph that). Not that she could wash it off - henna lasts for several days or even weeks. Tradition dictates that the bride can't do any housework until the henna fades completely. I want some henna!


The bridesmaids also changed out of their saris. Tanya and I had time for a quick chat and photo. I also had the chance to finally meet her mom, whom I'd heard much about during our days working at Barnes&Noble.com.


The night wouldn't be complete without a self-taken photo in which Chris doesn't think he looks good. Oh, come on, doesn't he look cute? Although a smile would be nice...

Priya's Wedding

Here are a few photos (and a video) from Priya's and James' wedding. They had a small Christian ceremony last November and celebrated Priya's heritage with a traditional Hindu ceremony at Ocean Place Resort in Long Branch, New Jersey.

While I had never attended a Hindu wedding, Priya explained the process when we watched Monsoon Wedding a few years ago. (Priya and I were roommates and also worked together in New York.) I'll try to be brief while explaining the highlights.

Priya's family and guests greet James and his family as they arrive by parade, complete with dancing and accompanied by a drum. Traditionally, the groom would arrive on a horse, but the resort doesn't exactly accommodate live animals.

James and family arrive at an archway, where Priya's parents greet him. They do some ceremonial stuff, such as James crushing a small clay pot and Priya's mom trying to "catch" his nose. If she gets it, that means he will be a loyal son-in-law. Although there's over a foot difference in height between Priya's mom and James, she was able to catch his nose!

Priya's parents welcome James to the mandap (beautifully decorated stage/altar) and a lengthy prayer (in Hindi and unintelligible to us, as was most of the ceremony) ensued.

After this welcoming ceremony was complete, a sheet was placed in front of James as he awaited Priya's arrival. Her parents are seated facing the guests (they play a very prominent role in the ceremony - much more than any Christian or Jewish ceremony I've attended) and James' friend and brother hold the sheet.


Once Priya arrived and the sheet was taken down, many other rituals are conducted including this one where Priya's parents are blessing their union (or something like that - again, I had no clue what was being said). The man seated next to James is the priest.

Once her parents gave their blessing, their chairs were moved to face the guests and her parents left the mandap. Their shawls are tied together by the orange scarf. (Note the gawker behind Priya? That's a public boardwalk so there were lots of onlookers.)

Here's a short video of Priya and James taking seven steps together around a small fire. Hindus believe that if two people walk seven steps together then they will remain together for life.



Near the end of the ceremony, the married women in Priya's and James' families came forward to whisper advice in her ear. The women in orange - Tanya (friend from work and bridesmaid) and Hinal (cousin and MOH) handed out gifts to those women.


Shortly after this, the ceremony ended, rather undramatically (no retreating up the aisle or anything like that).

The actual ceremony lasted close to 90 minutes and we were out there in the sun for over two hours (Chris got a sunburn) since it started late and there were several delays. This is typical and most of the guests freely wandered around, chatted and visited the beverage table.

It was easy to spot the Hindu wedding newbies, as we tried to sit quietly and pay attention! Eventually I joined the crowd and went for some water and to find a better vantage point for picture taking.

This has got to be my longest post ever, so I will save the post-ceremony report for tomorrow!

A Not-So-Good Milestone

A long-dreaded event has come to pass. I just paid $4 a gallon - $4.059 to be precise - for gas. My car requires premium fuel, so for the lucky unleaded users it's still below the $4 mark, but probably not for long.

I knew it was inevitable and that it will not be the last painful hurdle (some are predicting $7 a gallon in the not-too-distant future). All indications are that this is not a temporary situation. High prices are here to stay. Gas prices in the US have been relatively low for years. Remember $0.90 a gallon in 1999? In fact, a gallon of gas today costs only about 20 percent more than it did in 1922 (adjusted for inflation).

What are the major factors affecting gas prices?

- The emergence of China and India as economic powers (and the associated increase in oil demand)
- Exhausted oil fields controlled by nationalized companies
- Market speculation (not dissimilar from the housing and tech stock booms)
- Government subsidies in Venezuela, China and Russia that inflate prices elsewhere (the only reason I wouldn't want to live in Norway? $8.73 a gallon gas)

Unfortunately for all of us, years of low gas prices motivated people to buy larger, low MPG vehicles and drive farther and more often. Those who can't or won't (count me in on both) continue to put a sizable portion of their income toward filling our gas tanks will simply have to change our lifestyles.

I bought my 20 MPG car when gas was less than $2 a gallon. My next car will certainly get better gas mileage! I'm doing what I can to drive less, but I've never been much of a drive-around-for-no-reason person.

As consumers, what can we do besides reduce our consumption? Frankly, not much.

On the other hand, car manufacturers can produce cars that get better gas mileage, but they won't unless they're forced to (although the smart ones recognize this as a competitive advantage). This is one of many areas where government intervention is both necessary and effective.

There's little our government can do globally to control oil prices, but they can increase the fuel-efficiency standards (CAFE). The idea of taxing people based on the number of miles driven per year (and other polluting activities) also intrigues me, but I'm guessing that not very many people would like that idea.

Baby Zaiden

I received a pleasant surprise yesterday, when my friend Doris, to whom I haven't spoken in well over a year, called me. We both lost each others' phone numbers, but she did some detective work and tracked down Mom who gave her my number (thanks Mom!).

Doris is a friend I met when I lived in Rhode Island for a year back in 1998 - 10 years ago? How is that possible?

Her exciting news was that her third child was born in January. Here's Zaiden shortly after he was born:

And here is Doris with her husband Erwin and their other two children Kyara (14) and Xavier (almost 11).
Here's a more recent picture of Zaiden. Look at that hair!

I hope we'll get a chance to visit them sometime. Rhode Island's a great place to visit during the summer, so maybe in a year or two.

Jack's Graduation

Congrats to Jack, who graduated from Alexandria Technical College last Friday! Before the ceremony, Mom, Dad, Jack and I enjoyed an early dinner at Whiskey Creek.


If it's not obvious from the photos, Jack wasn't thrilled with having to pose. In fact, he was looking forward to Saturday's party more than the actual graduation ceremony.

He was a good sport, despite all the photos and my harassing texts during the ceremony threatening that Mom planned to holler 'Roundy' when they announced his name.

He should know us well enough to realize that we wouldn't actually yell anything...but it was fun to see him get agitated at the thought!

We're all extremely proud of Jack's efforts. Welcome to the real world!!

I'm sure the party on Saturday was great and I'm disappointed to have missed it. However, we had a fantastic time in New York and New Jersey. I'll be blogging about it all week!

Hooray for CA!

Today California became the second state in the US (along with Massachusetts) to legalize same-sex marriage.

I've never understood why this is such a controversial issue. Who cares what consenting adults do in private? Finding someone to happily spend your life with is probably one of life's greatest challenges (note that I said "happily"). If two people can achieve that and happen to be of the same gender, who is the government to deny them the rights bestowed on a male/female couple?

Our outlook as a progressive, thinking society is changing and our laws should follow suit. Banning interracial marriage seems ridiculous, yet that was the law in many states as recently as 1967.

While opposition of gay marriage among conservatives is nearly universal (though I'd like to know what Larry Craig and Mark Foley really think), there are a broad spectrum of opinions among liberals. Many - including elected officials I support - favor civil unions, which seem to me like a reincarnation of "Separate But Equal" that will eventually meet a similar fate.

There are certain issues - crime and drugs, to name two - on which my views are rather moderate. On this one, however, I could not be farther to the left. Live and let live, I say, and let's all mind our own business.

Do you know where your tax dollars go?

I found this breakdown of how our income tax dollars are allocated. I don't know how these numbers compare to the past, but I have a feeling the first two have not always accounted for half our tax dollars.

For every $100 in income tax:
  • $32 goes to national defense
  • $19 goes to interest on the national debt
  • $15 goes to supplemental programs such as TANF, child tax credits, and farm subsidies
  • $14 goes to health
  • $6 goes to education, employment, and social services
  • $4 goes to transportation
  • $2 goes to administration of justice
  • $2 goes to environment and natural resources
  • $2 goes to international affairs
  • $1 goes to community and regional development
  • $1 goes to agriculture
  • $1 goes to science, space, and technology
  • $1 goes to the commerce and housing funds

Happy Mother's Day

To My Mom...

for being you
smart and kind
encouraging and teaching
trusted friend

for all you do
today and everyday
helping and caring
one of a kind.

x 0 x 0

And to all the other Moms in my life...Grandmas, Aunts, Sisters, Friends...bonded by blood and marriage and luck...

wonderful wishes to you on Mother's Day!

Signs of Spring

Our weary and worn landscaping offered up a couple of lovely surprises this week...

I love tulips. Although they're no maintenance, I wish they'd stay around longer. Their color just came in yesterday and some look like they're already in full bloom.

This bush looked dead until these pretty purple flowers appeared yesterday. Up close, it still looks like a dead bush with flowers on it, but the color certainly helps!

Spring is really here and that means Summer isn't far behind. I have always loved this time of year, but after two years without much seasonal change, I have come to truly appreciate the joys of Spring. The sights and smells and sounds of rebirth and a fresh start!

Bumper Sticker Sighting

"Laura Bush '08"

huh? Can someone explain this to me? I just don't get it.

I interpret this as a message that she is qualified since she is the wife of a president. If that's the intent, it's an obvious dig at Hillary Clinton. Unfortunately, these two people are extremely different in terms of their qualifications.

Let's start with the fact that Clinton is a US Senator. Laura Bush was a teacher and librarian who hasn't had a job in over 30 years. This is a legitimate and even laudable life choice, but certainly not presidential.

Maybe I'm missing the irony or humor, but I really don't think so.

Take the Challenge

Most of the people who read my blog have no intention of voting for McCain (the correlation is obvious). For those still on the fence (or just for fun), click the link below to take the Bush-McCain challenge.

Bush-McCain Challenge

It's clear that McCain has been trying to differentiate himself from our unpopular president. See for yourself the positions these two have on a few key issues.

Observations and Activities

I was in Chicago (well, way out in the suburbs) for work last Friday. Nothing exciting that day, but my evening at O'Hare was interesting. I arrived at 7:30 to find that my 8:09 flight was delayed until 10:45. Ugh!

I'll spare you the United Airlines details...but after a flight change I made it out at about 11:45. The worst part is that there is only one sit-down restaurant in the entire B terminal. And it was a Chili's with a limited and extremely mediocre menu!

I did make one interesting observation, though. I'm pretty sure the terminal had converted a restroom into a Starbucks. I didn't have a camera and it's too hard to describe but it was odd - trust me!

I slept in on Saturday and after some quality tv watching Chris and I went to the gym and then when we came home we cleaned up the yard. That's a lot of activity for us!

Despite some serious clean-up, the landscaping and grass still look rough, but are good enough for now. The good news about the anemic-looking grass is that it won't have to be mowed often. Chris is thinking about getting a manual mower, which I think is a great idea. Especially if mowing is not on my chores list!

Sunday included more bonding with the television, a walk (finally!) to a great restaurant for lunch, Chris went to the gym again and I ran some errands. I also rotated my summer wardrobe upstairs. Hooray!

We've got some busy weekends coming up, so it was nice to relax but still get a few things done.